Adam wrote:I had a long debate once with a leading NLP figure about the value of grief... he was adamant that it is a negative experience and that we should, effectively, design it out of our experience. I disagree... I value all my experience and my experience of grief, pain and suffering is of value to me too... it's an aesthetic judgement I make, in part. I believe it is possible to be not attached to one's suffering and to still have it be of value in the full context of ones experience... I manifest the consciousness and sentience that Robert Anton Wilson refers to above and have an appreciate the dual nature of the limiting of perception that being "me" necessitates while understanding it to be utterly temporal and dependent in origin...
I think that to deny grief is to deny the totality of experience. And there is joy also in grief. I hesitate to use expressions such as growth, and yet suffering brings depth and breadth and height to our experience of life - we are the richer for it.
