Thoughtful and interesting responses, for which I thank you all. For the history of Druidic splits over the last couple of centuries, the best resource is Ronald Hutton's 'Blood & Mistletoe' (2009), which is about as objective and fair to all concerned as it's possible to get. In that book, however, Ronald doesn't go much beyond 1964 and the founding of OBOD (splitting from ADO

). His earlier book, 'The Druids,' (2008) has more to say on recent events, though very sensibly steering clear of much of the internal politicking that's gone on over the last 20 years or so.
My personal approach is mitigated by the knowledge of past splits. I now feel that having groups split is a sign that they've 'made it,' i.e. that they've become sufficiently recognised to be deemed worth splitting from

However, some people's attitudes taken in and around splits continue to baffle me. In the Avebury Gorsedd, for example, there were people who consistently and bitterly complained about every aspect of the ceremonies; those who were conducting them; how they were conducted; where they were held; who came to them, and so on and on. What baffled me was, if they disliked the ceremonies so much, why on earth did they keep coming to them every six weeks for years? Weird, huh?
I am encouraged by the fact that there are Druidries that are willing and able to cooperate happily for the mutual benefit of all. I would cite ourselves and OBOD as a good example.
In the end, most of the problems within Druidry come down to clashes between individual dominant personalities or, if you prefer, egos. Mostly male egos. At the heart of most of the troubles are less than a handful of persons suffering from mental instability to varying degrees. However much one may sympathise with their medical conditions, they do render them impervious to rational argument, to agreements, plans of action or methodologies.
Mind you, the personality thing can work both ways. Part of the reason BDO and OBOD play so well together is that Philip Carr-Gomm and I have been friends for 20 years. I'm a big fan of friendship. I think it's one of the most valuable qualities in the whole of human existence.
Anyway, enough rambling. Time to scrub some spuds.
Peace (and I mean that most sincerely),
Greywolf /|\